Are you and your spouse competing for attention?

You share the same heart rate and blood pressure so stress and agitation is easily shared equal. Stop assuming you can read each others minds. TALK. It is healthy to argue and even helps with arousal, be strong. Take control and choose one activity you can do for each other a day and make it a priority. Then make five minutes a day to think of three things you can be proud about and be proud. Its tough but the challenge is what keeps us going. Doing things that excite you make you more connected to the present moment and boosts your self esteem. Find ways to spice things up again and get out of routine. If hes bored your just predictable. Try watching a t.v. show together and make out during the commercials cuddle up and flirt with each other. Try making getting out of bed as intimate as getting into it. Do your makeup naked. If you have to wear panty hose wear thigh highs and keep it your sexy little secret. Buy a game you can play together it raises testosterone levels in both men and women. Get out of the bedroom. Wear heels occasionally, they work the muscles linked to the female orgasm. Change pace be assertive and dominate if hes usually the one to bring up sex, try catching him off guard for once. Try having sex in front of a mirror. Or go for the thrill of being caught and try something risky. Eat something that you believe makes you feel good. Your favorite food, just avoid heartburn and gas. Nibble on some chocolate. Have him run his fingers along your spine during sex it gives you minigasms called kriyas. Rub his feet. Try inhaling and exhaling together it increases intimacy. Massage each other then deny yourself the happy ending. Talk dirty. Touch another part of your body when your involved and eventually every time you touch that part you will be aroused. Try Role play. have him be the cable guy and you the unsuspecting women. Have some fun. Take a break. Even a short one for some teasing throughout the day.